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What's your relationship like with your parents? How has it changed now that you're an adult?
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What's the best advice that your mom and/or dad ever gave you?
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Diana Antholis
Paul Angone redefines BALANCE on my blog today - Stop Trying to Balance Your Life http://bit.ly/r6j37A
35 weeks ago from GenYJourney: Tips, Insights, Experiences For Young Professionals and Work-Family Balance
Shelly Pleasant
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Diana Antholis
As a man, do you look to combine career and family? OR are they separate. Usually, we see women having 2 jobs: the "office" and "home." What about men? http://bit.ly/g6atcK "Men: It's Career or Family. Not Both. Or is it?"
Ryan Paugh
I have a really hard time asking people for help, especially my family and friends. I'm not sure what the problem is, but I'm pretty sure it's haunted me for most of my life. Maybe it stems from being an only child. I realized that I have to get better at asking for help after watching Ty's Rock Your Career video on our Facebook page today >> http://bit.ly/cWtoHb
Do you guys have any strategies for doing this? If anyone else struggles w/ the same problem I'd love to hear your ideas.
94 weeks ago from Work-Family Balance, Professional Development, Ask A Coach and Job Resources and Career Coaching2 more
Becky Benishek:
Depending on how much you truly mooched off of them while you were still in the nest, I bet you'll find that parents can be oddly happy to help ...MoreDepending on how much you truly mooched off of them while you were still in the nest, I bet you'll find that parents can be oddly happy to help out their kids once in awhile! That's been my experience. I don't like to ask them either for the same reasons--I feel I should be taking care of them (even if they don't need it)--but it's as if they're glad to still be considered an integral part of our lives, and proud to be asked to help.
93 weeks ago
93 weeks ago
Amy Chandler:
I think the fear of asking for help comes from a fear of rejection. What if the person says no, or if he/she does help but is resentful of the ...MoreI think the fear of asking for help comes from a fear of rejection. What if the person says no, or if he/she does help but is resentful of the imposition, or whatever your fear of asking for help sounds like. When my fear of asking for help (or for anything) does show up, I remember a quote from my employer: "My wife probably wouldn't have married me if I hadn't asked." It's a witty variation of "you can't get what you don't ask for," but it drives home the point that if it's really important, then don't be afraid to ask.
93 weeks ago
93 weeks ago
wendy aron
I don't have kids so I tell my cats to learn a technical skill that even dogs can't take away from them.
If or when you have kids, what will be the ONE most important piece of career advice you will give them and how did you come to this conclusion?
94 weeks ago from What I Wish I Knew Then, Professional Writers and Editors, Helicopter Parents, Work-Family Balance and Work/Life Blur3 more
Iris Van Kerckhove:
Agree with Jamie. Do what you love! Anyone's who's tried to do what they don't love thinking t it's what they should do knows how much more effort ...MoreAgree with Jamie. Do what you love! Anyone's who's tried to do what they don't love thinking t it's what they should do knows how much more effort this takes, and how much less joy you get out of it.
94 weeks ago
94 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh
So my Mom just called to tell me that she's mentoring someone on Brazen Careerist now. I think that's pretty awesome. I've always thought that Brazen was a great place to bridge the Generation Gap. So I'm wondering if more parents of Gen-Y professionals might start popping up here and mentoring the younger members of the community. What do you think? Would your parents consider joining Brazen? Would they like it? Would they understand how to use it?
99 weeks ago from Helicopter Parents, Mentors & Mentees and Work-Family Balance1 more
Chris Paugh recommended this
Kristen Jeffers:
I'd like to see that too. I can't get my mom to get on any social media, but some of her siblings have, but mostly to monitor my younger cousin's ...MoreI'd like to see that too. I can't get my mom to get on any social media, but some of her siblings have, but mostly to monitor my younger cousin's activities
98 weeks ago
98 weeks ago
Suzanne Swint:
i have been a member of BC since its launch & i am the mom of two gen-y daughters, neither of them use it or even know what is it.
i love the ...Morei have been a member of BC since its launch & i am the mom of two gen-y daughters, neither of them use it or even know what is it.
i love the concept & think that it can be a great platform for non-traditional types like myself...i don't fully participate because i am busy & a lot of stuff does not interest me.
i did, however catch the webinar with seth godin and i was quite impressed how impatient y'all were with the tech difficulties..i also rushed home (skipped the wine shop) to get here in time, but
you guys were brutal in the chatroom..
i am also signed up to hear guy kawasaki..
98 weeks ago
i love the ...Morei have been a member of BC since its launch & i am the mom of two gen-y daughters, neither of them use it or even know what is it.
i love the concept & think that it can be a great platform for non-traditional types like myself...i don't fully participate because i am busy & a lot of stuff does not interest me.
i did, however catch the webinar with seth godin and i was quite impressed how impatient y'all were with the tech difficulties..i also rushed home (skipped the wine shop) to get here in time, but
you guys were brutal in the chatroom..
i am also signed up to hear guy kawasaki..
98 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh
Are you making some time during the 4th of July weekend to relax? Catch up with family and friends? Not work? The 4th is always that time during the summer when I realize that I've been moving too fast and I need to slow down. Go outside and enjoy yourself this weekend. Hang out with the people that are important to you. The work will still be there next week.
Happy 4th of July!
98 weeks ago from Productivity & Time-Management, Work/Life Blur and Work-Family Balance1 more
Julie Allemagne, Lois Wilson and blake hall recommended this
Christina:
so very true! growing up that was my mom's favorite saying...the mess will always be there tomorrow but my kids will grow up fast...spending time ...Moreso very true! growing up that was my mom's favorite saying...the mess will always be there tomorrow but my kids will grow up fast...spending time with her came first! I loved it and think everyone should realize that work will always be there, those that are important to you may not.
98 weeks ago
98 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh
Lately I've been seeing myself turn into my dad. It's funny because you never see that sort of thing coming ... I realized that I wasn't alone when Jake wrote about how he got his entrepreneurial spirit from his dad (http://bit.ly/crI5rw). So other people must be experiencing the same thing. How about you? Have you noticed yourself acting more like your parents? Is that a good or bad thing?
99 weeks ago from Helicopter Parents and Work-Family Balance
Jake Poinier:
Ryan, thanks for the h/t! It was interesting to see the strong reactions my post provoked, from people with similar experiences to those who ...MoreRyan, thanks for the h/t! It was interesting to see the strong reactions my post provoked, from people with similar experiences to those who vociferously denied that heredity could possibly have anything to do with what you end up doing for a living.
As I get older, I definitely understand why my parents were generally strict, and my wife and I are following a similar model. I am comfortable being a parent now, with the knowledge that friendship can come later. In particular, I think a lot of Baby Boomer parents want to try to be buddies way too soon.
99 weeks ago
As I get older, I definitely understand why my parents were generally strict, and my wife and I are following a similar model. I am comfortable being a parent now, with the knowledge that friendship can come later. In particular, I think a lot of Baby Boomer parents want to try to be buddies way too soon.
99 weeks ago
Raquel Elle Bell:
@Jake ~ You are right on there... I think that it's important to be a guide first friendship can come later when you actually have more in common ...More@Jake ~ You are right on there... I think that it's important to be a guide first friendship can come later when you actually have more in common with your children. When they actually have life experience and can appreciate the sacrifice and struggle.
99 weeks ago
99 weeks ago
Cary Thomson
For the past couple of months the OH and me have been renting the basement suite in my SIL/BIL's place. So far it's worked out really well - we get to live in a lovely place in a great neighborhood for less than we'd usually have to pay . They get some one they can trust and we're there for any emergency baby sitting. So I'd be interested in hearing any one else's perspectives on living with non parent members of your family. Do you think it's a great idea or a recipe for disaster?
JRandom42:
Did that some time ago, and will never do it again. Not only will they lord it over you that they're "doing you a favor", but they think that ...MoreDid that some time ago, and will never do it again. Not only will they lord it over you that they're "doing you a favor", but they think that "you owe them" for the rest of your life, from their perspective. I'll live out of my car, before I do that again.
99 weeks ago
99 weeks ago
Cary Thomson:
So two really different perspectives on living with relatives. I guess it depends on how well you get on with them and how much personal space you ...MoreSo two really different perspectives on living with relatives. I guess it depends on how well you get on with them and how much personal space you have.
I have to say that I was kinda of nervous before we moved in but as time went on things have settled down. it helps that the SIL and BIL are ultra aware that as much as we love the kids we donèt want them around all the time and have made sure to impress that on them.
98 weeks ago
I have to say that I was kinda of nervous before we moved in but as time went on things have settled down. it helps that the SIL and BIL are ultra aware that as much as we love the kids we donèt want them around all the time and have made sure to impress that on them.
98 weeks ago
Christie Scott
Do you say as a coach or mentor, "You should do this or that" for work/life balance. BUT, when we really look closely how many of us have really achieved it?
I don't think even 5% of mothers who are business owners have. We just can't! Kids, the growing business, it's all too much! How can we really fit self care and "me" time in?
I am a workaholic by nature, AND I have bills to pay! That will ALWAYS be true! So, what will we do about it?
I have an idea, but am I brave enough to follow through!
Ryan Paugh:
So what's your idea? Mine idea would be that if it's important enough to you, than you should just do it! I'm not a workaholic by nature, but I ...MoreSo what's your idea? Mine idea would be that if it's important enough to you, than you should just do it! I'm not a workaholic by nature, but I do have a lot of responsibility on back. I've made an conscious effort to avoid work during specific time periods that I've set aside to be with my girlfriend or family. I also give into the temptation during emergencies. Is that anything like your idea? I'd love to hear what you were thinking ...
99 weeks ago
99 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh
In a couple weeks my parents and my girlfriend's parents are going to meet for the first time. This isn't something that I've ever stressed out about before, but my current girlfriend is pretty awesome. I want this meeting to go well. I know that it's pretty much a dice roll, but if you guys have any tips for how I can make the first encounter a good one I'd love to hear from you. I'll give you all an update after they meet too.
102 weeks ago from Relationships: How do we create great ones?, Power Couples, Work-Family Balance, Work/Life Blur and Young Professional Women (YPW)3 more
Olga Garcia recommended this
Hannah Kane:
@Ryan-- I found myself in a similar situation a couple of weeks ago, when my boyfriend of two year's parents and mine met for the first time. I ...More@Ryan-- I found myself in a similar situation a couple of weeks ago, when my boyfriend of two year's parents and mine met for the first time. I was nervous because where my parents are left leaning democrats, his are on the far right of the spectrum, and I was just hoping to avoid catastrophe.
We all met up for dinner and managed to steer the conversation to common ground-- their kids, of course, and sports! Sports are something everyone tends to have common ground in. And after dinner, things lightened up even more when we went out to an Irish pub for a drink. From your comments above, it seems like that option might be a winner!
101 weeks ago
We all met up for dinner and managed to steer the conversation to common ground-- their kids, of course, and sports! Sports are something everyone tends to have common ground in. And after dinner, things lightened up even more when we went out to an Irish pub for a drink. From your comments above, it seems like that option might be a winner!
101 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh:
@Jenn -- Awesome recommendation. I'm going to check it out this weekend.
@Hannah -- I'm counting my blessings that both my girlfriend's parents ...More@Jenn -- Awesome recommendation. I'm going to check it out this weekend.
@Hannah -- I'm counting my blessings that both my girlfriend's parents and my own seem to be more on the Conservative side. Politics can ruin everything.
Drinks always help, too! They'll be plenty of beer when our parents finally meet in a few weeks :)
101 weeks ago
@Hannah -- I'm counting my blessings that both my girlfriend's parents ...More@Jenn -- Awesome recommendation. I'm going to check it out this weekend.
@Hannah -- I'm counting my blessings that both my girlfriend's parents and my own seem to be more on the Conservative side. Politics can ruin everything.
Drinks always help, too! They'll be plenty of beer when our parents finally meet in a few weeks :)
101 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh
Do you mix work and family? I've worked at the same company as my Mom before, but we didn't work on the same projects. I have some friends that work directly with their parents on a regular basis. It works out okay for some people, but not for everybody. If you work directly with family, what challenges have you faced? If you don't work with family, would you ever consider dong it?
Ryan Paugh:
@Bryon -- Things change really fast. I get back to see my family 1-2 times per year and I'm always amazed by how things evolve in those short ...More@Bryon -- Things change really fast. I get back to see my family 1-2 times per year and I'm always amazed by how things evolve in those short periods of time.
@Raquel -- You're probably right about your brother flying solo. If you're seeking a simpler life I don't necessarily think that starting a detail-oriented company is the right thing to do.
102 weeks ago
@Raquel -- You're probably right about your brother flying solo. If you're seeking a simpler life I don't necessarily think that starting a detail-oriented company is the right thing to do.
102 weeks ago
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I met my partner at work-- yeah, yeah, I know-- and we're happy seeing each other so much, but we definitely feed off each other's frustration ...MoreI met my partner at work-- yeah, yeah, I know-- and we're happy seeing each other so much, but we definitely feed off each other's frustration with the business, and the natural differences in our work priorities can feel personal. Like any co-workers, we want our own tasks taken care of first, and it's hard to understand when someone who puts you first in the outside world doesn't put you first at work.
It's hard enough not to take work stress home. Having personal stress mixed with it is too much.
102 weeks ago
It's hard enough not to take work stress home. Having personal stress mixed with it is too much.
102 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh
Do you let your parents be your friend on Facebook? A few of my close friends refuse to let their parents be their friend. I personally love that my Mom is my friend on Facebook. Since I'm hundreds of miles away, I think that it really helps keep us close. She can see pics of what I'm up to and tell me how I look like a need a haircut :)
103 weeks ago from Work-Family Balance and Social Media
Chris Paugh:
I personally love that my son is my friend on facebook. With the distance of several hundreds of miles between us, it is great to keep up with ...MoreI personally love that my son is my friend on facebook. With the distance of several hundreds of miles between us, it is great to keep up with each others lives and I feel closer to him. Believe it or not, I have some pretty good adventures of my own!
102 weeks ago
102 weeks ago
Jim Parker:
Lol at this clip (use headphones if at work): MoreLol at this clip (use headphones if at work): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZqS6SEMYj4 ...
But in truth, it's good to see that parents are using social media to promote good communication instead of snooping. A handful of my college friends that have good relationships with their parents also have good interactions with them online as well.
102 weeks ago
But in truth, it's good to see that parents are using social media to promote good communication instead of snooping. A handful of my college friends that have good relationships with their parents also have good interactions with them online as well.
102 weeks ago
Ryan:My relationship with my family is good. I know see a big change how everyone views me from when I was little. I actually still live with my family in NJ/PA and still on the hunt for that first real job. Who knows when that happens if it changes again.
Ryan I'm really sure that your family misses you very much and proud that you've achieved so much no matter what. I call my GenX uncle in Seattle and GenY sister in Miami. I know how lonely it could feel being 1000 miles away.
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Not you. But your Millennial generation will wind up pushing projects too far too suit younger generations. Millennials kids will rebel against ...MoreNot you. But your Millennial generation will wind up pushing projects too far too suit younger generations. Millennials kids will rebel against them in 2050?
102 weeks ago
102 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh
What's your relationship like with your parents now that you're a member of the working world? Has it changed? When we started Brazen Careerist I moved from the East Coast (where I grew up) to the Midwest. I only get to see my family a couple times a year and it's hard on me. Is anyone else in a similar situation? How do you stay connected?
I feel like some of my Location-Independent peeps on Brazen must deal with this problem a lot ...
103 weeks ago from Work-Family Balance, Work/Life Blur and Location Independent1 more
Scott Rafferty:
About a year ago, I moved from the beauty of the Utah mountains to Philadelphia for my current gig, and that has greatly changed my relationships ...MoreAbout a year ago, I moved from the beauty of the Utah mountains to Philadelphia for my current gig, and that has greatly changed my relationships with family members for the better. Particularly, I have a greater understanding of my dad and his experiences, which has brought us closer. Like you, I get to see my family a couple of times a year, but I have contact with someone in my family at least once a day. I make a concerted effort to stay in their lives, and keep them in mine.
One thing that has been awesome for all of us to stay connected is Google Wave. Even my parents use it and we all chat, share videos and pics, and hang out using the Wave.
103 weeks ago
One thing that has been awesome for all of us to stay connected is Google Wave. Even my parents use it and we all chat, share videos and pics, and hang out using the Wave.
103 weeks ago
Ryan Paugh:
@Scott -- Never thought of getting my family on Google Wave before, but I think you're right that it could be useful.
My Mom's side of the family ...More@Scott -- Never thought of getting my family on Google Wave before, but I think you're right that it could be useful.
My Mom's side of the family is in Philly. I try to make it up to see my aunts, uncles and cousins at least once a year. Next time I'm in the area we'll have to try to organize a Philly meet up.
103 weeks ago
My Mom's side of the family ...More@Scott -- Never thought of getting my family on Google Wave before, but I think you're right that it could be useful.
My Mom's side of the family is in Philly. I try to make it up to see my aunts, uncles and cousins at least once a year. Next time I'm in the area we'll have to try to organize a Philly meet up.
103 weeks ago
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