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Growing up Asperger's

How do you deal?

Network Leader: Another_1

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Another_1 Only if you have a prescription

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Another_1 But I am here, and I can provide a shortcut! No error, just try and see it working!

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Jeremy Bante: Can I have some of Pirelli's Miracle Elixir with that?
28 weeks ago

Another_1 And how does one determines which is which?

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Jeremy Bante: Trial and error, inconvenient though it is — error, mostly.
28 weeks ago

Jeremy Bante: I don't remember where this comes from, but "Good judgement comes from experience, which comes from bad judgement."
28 weeks ago

Another_1 why a person cannot modify his behavior to make his life easier?
Is it because he is unable, or because he is unwilling?

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Jeremy Bante: Most things can be changed, some are easier than others, and some things shouldn't have to.
28 weeks ago

Another_1 Here is a pattern - he complains of a difficulty with his classmates, I suggest smth - he explains to me why this would not work. I am stuck

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Jeremy Bante: This is indeed a tough one, and he's only going to get better at it; though this pattern is by no means unique to aspies.
28 weeks ago

Jeremy Bante: You might argue that he's being unscientific; it isn't science if you don't try it.
28 weeks ago

Another_1 He does know that other children think that he is weird, and he is concerned. Conversations are one-sided, and this is a problem, too.

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Jeremy Bante: Finding people with similar interests is a problem I've never grown out of, but it gets easier as peers get older and begin to specialize.
28 weeks ago

Jeremy Bante: If everyone thinks your weird, just hang out with the people who think that's a good thing.
28 weeks ago

Jeremy Bante Focus on behaviors that can be real impediments: asking strangers for what he wants/needs (ordering food), being comfortable in crowds, etc.

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Jeremy Bante: Another important one: knowing who to cooperate with (authority figures) and who not to (everyone else), and polite non-cooperation
28 weeks ago

Another_1: Crowds are not a problem as far as I can see. He just ignores it ;)
28 weeks ago

Another_1 But this is interesting, that you cannot be convinced to change your behavior. But if you -think- it hurts you?

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Another_1 Mostly advices on how to behave as not to come across as "weird". Do I ask him not to "walk funny", or will this "stifle his creativity"?

28 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

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Jeremy Bante: Coming across as "weird" becomes more advantageous in adolescence and adulthood, as long as he can carry a conversation.
28 weeks ago

Jeremy Bante: Eccentricity that children would insult can range from being impressive to mysterious to endearing in a well-adjusted adult.
28 weeks ago

Jeremy Bante What does going back in time have to do uniquely with Asperger's?

29 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

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Jeremy Bante: So you're goal for this group is to discuss parenting Asperger's, rather than living and working with it?
29 weeks ago

Jeremy Bante: What help does this child need, if saying so doesn't disclose individually identifiable health information?
29 weeks ago

Another_1 Jeremy, my goals do not have to define what this group is used for. I hope it can be useful in more than one way.

29 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's

Jeremy Bante: Agreed; but it will be disappointing if it isn't useful for at least your goals.
29 weeks ago

Another_1 ..after giving some more thought to it I realized that my goal is not to discuss parenting at all. Living and working with Asperger's is it.

29 weeks ago from Growing up Asperger's