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Cheryl Lynn Morris Back in the late 70s/early 80s, I read in Psychology Today about Dr. Ira Progoff's Intensive Journal technique for accessing and managing your attitudes and beliefs in your subconscious mind. I learned from the examples in the article, and was able to extinguish a bad habit that was alarming me. I've signed up to take the 3-hour Introductory Presentation in Ellicott City, Maryland on June 3, 2012. See this website for details: http://www.intensivejournal.org/general/northeast_midAtlantic.php

1 week ago from Baltimore Brazen

 
TOP IDEA: Ty Unglebower Today I am beginning the process of unfollowing, and unsubscribing, and just plain giving up on some of the "must follow!" gurus, blogs, Twitter feeds and websites I sort of fell for in 2010. Actually I didn't totally fall for all of them, but I was acting on the water cooler premise that if I read what everyone else read, I'd have more to talk about and hence more to network about. But it was inauthentic. I'm tired. No more "Godin-like" sites for me without some unique appeal.

71 weeks ago from Networking Tips, Creating a Life You Love, Baltimore Brazen and Washington D.C.2 more

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Ben Donahower: Yep, I get what I call RSS creep all of the time. Every six months or so I need to pare down.
71 weeks ago
Reneida: Completely agree Ty. This is particularly a problem with Twitter...before you know it you're following way too many people (especially the ...MoreCompletely agree Ty. This is particularly a problem with Twitter...before you know it you're following way too many people (especially the "gurus") and absorbing absolutely nothing in terms of content that is sincerely relevant to you. I only follow a few people that I find interesting and in line with what I want to learn/know. Sure, my follow back numbers suffer as a result, but I did not sign up to that SN for the popularity but rather the value.
70 weeks ago
 
TOP IDEA: Ty Unglebower Have you ever heard how excited some people get about "putting this place on the map"? Whether it be a city, a company, a college, or something else. How often are too many sacrifices to the character of the institution for the sake of greater fame? I say too many, too often. I'm not worried about being a part of something on the map. I want to be a part of something that offers a rewarding experience. I discuss this in my latest post. http://bit.ly/gaaGUJ

69 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Creating a Life You Love, Creatively Inspired and Baltimore Brazen2 more

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Zack Laplante: Great entry Ty, I feel a lot of sentiment with your thoughts here. I went to a very small public high school with a music program that has a ...MoreGreat entry Ty, I feel a lot of sentiment with your thoughts here. I went to a very small public high school with a music program that has a great reputation with the surrounding communities. Tell that to the administration though. We've had to fund the program independently for years now because the school refuses to fund the music program and other extracurriculars properly and instead puts everything into (big surprise!) the basketball team. I don't know what it is about being "put on the map," but it truly doesn't seem to be the best policy in all cases.
68 weeks ago
Ty Unglebower: Thanks for your thoughts, both of you! (I just now got back onto to my BC account today after some difficulties.)

I like how you put it Jeremy. ...MoreThanks for your thoughts, both of you! (I just now got back onto to my BC account today after some difficulties.)

I like how you put it Jeremy. That the map destroys greatness. I think that sums up my view on the issue rather nicely.

And Zack, it sounds like you have experienced first hand exactly what I am talking about.
68 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower Much is said here on Brazen and all of the other similar career oriented sites about risk taking. Getting out of one's comfort zone. I don't know if I agree with all of it, but I do know that certain types of risk taking, such as the flashy, jump off a cliff kind get more traction in the stories, blogs, and webinars. But there are quiet, subtle, risk taken by the introverted among us every day. I write about the overlooked risks of the introvert. http://bit.ly/qAaP3j

43 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Baltimore Brazen, Creating a Life You Love and Creatively Inspired2 more

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JRandom42: Despair.com comes through with the definitive quote on risk taking:

MoreDespair.com comes through with the definitive quote on risk taking:

http://www.despair.com/risks.html

43 weeks ago
Noel Rozny: Did my comment show up on your blog?
43 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower It is about time someone at least made a minimal effort to put an official (if not instantly effective) end to discrimination against the unemployed in the job search. It is not only disgusting and unfair, but also lazy. I have heard so much talk from hiring managers about "why see so many people we need to narrow it down somehow" that I wish all of them would become unemployed for 100 weeks to see just how this tactic feels from the other side. http://bit.ly/rqpC2i

45 weeks ago from Networking Tips, Entry-Level Young Professionals, Washington D.C. and Baltimore Brazen2 more

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Edward Antrobus: @Jim, Even if a person is unemployed because they aren't what their last employered needed "to stay healthy," that isn't necessarily a reflection ...More@Jim, Even if a person is unemployed because they aren't what their last employered needed "to stay healthy," that isn't necessarily a reflection on the (un)employee. I'm in that boat right now. I was laid off after my position was eliminated to save money and the duties were split between two other, more senior, employees.

And if a person is unemployed due to a reason directly related to their actions, a prospective employer should ask themselves if that reason is 1) relevant to their operation and 2)likely to happen again. If it is, THAT may be a valid reason to not hire a person...at which point it's not discrimination based on the actual unemployment.
44 weeks ago
Edward Antrobus: Also, from the NELP report:
Significantly, the legislation does not make the unemployed a "protected class" under antidiscrimination laws. It is ...MoreAlso, from the NELP report:
Significantly, the legislation does not make the unemployed a "protected class" under antidiscrimination laws. It is far more targeted, focusing solely on the process of recruiting and hiring,
and applies only to decisions that are based on individuals' employment status.
44 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower I am an introvert and like most of them, I hate small talk. It is a waste of time, annoying, and self defeating. I expand on the nature of my deep hatred in my latest blog post. http://bit.ly/ivfGNR

50 weeks ago from Networking Tips, Creating a Life You Love, Creatively Inspired, Washington D.C. and Baltimore Brazen3 more

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Michael Rubino: Man it's tough to get a conversation going at meet-and-greet events, where you can almost feel everyone in the room inwardly cringing at the ...MoreMan it's tough to get a conversation going at meet-and-greet events, where you can almost feel everyone in the room inwardly cringing at the prospect of vapid chatter.

I agree with you, Ty, that getting to the point can save time, effort, and discomfort. I think that many people dislike the ice-breaker type conversation that you describe.

But, if risking a moment of small talk with a stranger could lead to a connection and more substantial conversation regarding a topic that is of mutual interest, would taking that risk be justified for the introvert?
50 weeks ago
Ty Unglebower: If the introvert has done their homework, (which they almost always do), I am willing to speculate that a superficial ice breaker type of chat up ...MoreIf the introvert has done their homework, (which they almost always do), I am willing to speculate that a superficial ice breaker type of chat up with a potentially influential connection would not be necessary. By that I mean that a fully engaged and relevant conversation of mutual interest between the introvert and the power-broker in question may be just as effective, if not more so than the small talk.

But let us assume for some reason that small talk would be the absolute only way to meet and engage with someone we had an interest in. I imagine each introvert would have to decide on his or her own if it was worth the "risk" of doing something they found uncomfortable or even in some cases revolting. I am sure it has happened.

For my own part, I have in general never been in proximity to someone I wanted to connect with enough to pretend to be a schmooze, though I cannot guarantee no such person exists. They would have to be a hell of an important person, though. And I'd have to be in a fantastic mood!


50 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower There is a you, and a "you". "You" is the person people assume you are, expect you to be, and at some point if you are not careful, who you start to become. To act like. Because that is the understood place you hold. (The Dumb One or the Crabby One.) The good news is, you can stop being "you" and start being you whenever you want to. You don't have to accept that role in the play of life. I post more about this. http://bit.ly/jzaycN

51 weeks ago from Creating a Life You Love, Networking Tips, Washington D.C. and Baltimore Brazen2 more

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Noel Rozny: I think this is a trap you really see highlighted on reality TV these days!!
51 weeks ago
Ty Unglebower: Thank, Jason. Glad you enjoyed. And Noel, I wouldn't be on one of those shows for that very reason. Even if I was paid. Never again can the people ...MoreThank, Jason. Glad you enjoyed. And Noel, I wouldn't be on one of those shows for that very reason. Even if I was paid. Never again can the people who have been on them, passed and present, just act as they really would. They have to keep up that image.


51 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower I find it difficult to network, and sometimes just converse with certain type of consultants. You always wonder what is and is not fair game to talk about. I expound upon these difficulties over at the blog. http://bit.ly/f8eqbB

67 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Baltimore Brazen, Networking Tips and Freelancing2 more

 
Ty Unglebower To be honest, I am usually not inspired by the success of others. I know, it is said by many that the more we spread happiness to others and share in their victories, the more likely we are to enjoy our own. But I just can't buy it in most cases. I find success stories to actually be rather discouraging because in most cases it cannot be replicated. Call it jealousy, call it negativity, call ti what you will. But at least read my post about it to find out more. http://bit.ly/jqz0NB

54 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Networking Tips, Baltimore Brazen and Creating a Life You Love2 more

Candace: I hate to be blunt Ty, but to me, that is such a sad way to view success and opportunity! Of course success can be replicated - that's why so many ...MoreI hate to be blunt Ty, but to me, that is such a sad way to view success and opportunity! Of course success can be replicated - that's why so many people have been successful breaking away from large companies and doing the same thing on their own terms. My experience is in executive search and a majority of the highly successful boutique firms were founded by guys that broke off from a huge firm. There are 100's of those stories. But regardless of if success can be exactly replicated, we can all learn from others. Sure, celebrating their victories is fun (at least for me!) but we can also network and learn from their experience. I think you are missing many, many opportunities otherwise. Ok, off to read your post now that I've commented .. we will see if it changes my mind! Have a wonderful weekend!

54 weeks ago
Ty Unglebower: Thanks for reading Candace. I will let you read the post itself before I reply in detail, but I imagine you will feel much the same way afterward. ...MoreThanks for reading Candace. I will let you read the post itself before I reply in detail, but I imagine you will feel much the same way afterward. I will say however that it isn't so much there is nothing to learn from success stories, but that there isn't much that is applicable to my situations. Learning is great, and some success stories are quite educational. But if all one is learning is how different types of people with different perspectives on life accomplished something, it is difficult to put that learning into practice.
54 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower There have been many reactions to the death of Bin Laden. Some celebrating. Some ambiguous. Some sad. Some a bit angry or disgusted. And guess what? Each of these has come from GOOD people. That is right, it is not only the terrorists that may have cause to NOT celebrate. And we must not judge those who are not waving flags and singing today. My latest post on why. http://bit.ly/mFAGHO

55 weeks ago from Washington D.C. and Baltimore Brazen

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JRandom42: My friends and comrades in Coronado, Fayetteville, Savannah, Lakewood and Quantico are celebrating their brains out. Then it's back to work.
55 weeks ago
Jane Thompson: @Rebecca-I could not agree more.
55 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower Like a tornado, which even the most skilled people in the field barely understand, people can have obstacles, blocks, problems, and bad luck over which they have no control. I think it is time we acknowledge this and concede that while optimism and positive thinking are important, they simply are not the answer as often as gurus would have us believe. http://bit.ly/mJZZvT

55 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Baltimore Brazen and Networking Tips1 more

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Michael Johnson: Not disagreeing with you! There is a very human failing, though, to curl up in the ditch and use the tornado to excuse oneself from trying to ...MoreNot disagreeing with you! There is a very human failing, though, to curl up in the ditch and use the tornado to excuse oneself from trying to climb out. People who get caught in a toxic job situation, a failed or lost relationship, and some people who are disabled fall into this trap. It is urgently important to remember that somehow it is all to the Good, and not to let the mud and filth in the ditch break the will to climb out, change underwear, and go find another horse to tame.
55 weeks ago
Ty Unglebower: Noel: I am not sure why it would not let you comment. Nobody has ever had that problem over there before...so I have no idea what to tell you. But ...MoreNoel: I am not sure why it would not let you comment. Nobody has ever had that problem over there before...so I have no idea what to tell you. But thank you for commenting here. Good point about some optimists heeding the warnings and accepting their limitations and problems. (Which in this metaphor is getting to the basement or lying in the ditch.)

Michael-Yes, we can't lay in the ditch all the time. Like I said, if it truly is a sunny day with nothing on the radar and you feel the need to seek shelter, you are over doing your caution. Perhaps it take a friend, or at least someone who admires one's work, to point out the tornado to those who stand there watching it, as well as to point out the sun to those still lingering in the ditch. And people who are wise enough to know everything in between the two.
55 weeks ago
 
Nicole C. I have a Business Development Rep/Inside Sales opportunity in the Owings Mills area. Let me know if you are interested!

56 weeks ago from Baltimore Brazen

 
Ty Unglebower I think that as time goes on the middle of the road American consumer is being shoved aside; their needs and tastes ignored in favor of catering to a consumer elite. Those that can only have the best, fanciest, newest and trendiest, and are willing to pay top dollar for same, or go into debt for same. The demise of the Flip Camera could be an example of this unfair phenomena, and I expound upon this in my latest post. http://bit.ly/hrIfza

57 weeks ago from Washington D.C. and Baltimore Brazen

Rebecca Thorman: I think Pogue has a good synopsis on why it's not actually the smartphones that are killing the flip - MoreI think Pogue has a good synopsis on why it's not actually the smartphones that are killing the flip - http://pogue.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/04/14/the-tragic-death-of-the-flip/ - and I actually think we're moving to an experience economy that DOES cater to everyone and lessens materialism. Whereas only the rich had access to certain services, now everyone does. I agree, the demise of the Flip totally sucks though.
57 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower Is it possible to be extreme in one's attempts to be moderate? I think so. I talk about this irony, and what you can do to avoid it, on my latest post. http://bit.ly/hHaRoT

58 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Creating a Life You Love, FunEmployment and Baltimore Brazen2 more

 
Ty Unglebower Charlie Sheen bombed in Detroit, and did somewhat better in Chicago (after a massive overall of his show's format, with which he didn't always seem happy.) It's easy to point fingers at "The Torpedo of Truth/Failure Is Not an Option". We feel so sure we know why it was bound to fail. But what do we really know? I don't think we have a firm grasp on what hits or misses in out entertainment culture today. Further thoughts: http://bit.ly/fXHTWM

59 weeks ago from Professional Writers and Editors, Creatively Inspired, Washington D.C. and Baltimore Brazen2 more

 
Ty Unglebower If you read my comments or my Too XYZ blog, you know by now that I am rather unconventional in my approach to relationships and especially networking. I am an introvert who doesn't need to be cured. But I recognize how extroverts would have proceeded when I do things my way. One such event was a huge magazine launch party I went to on Friday. How did this introvert get on? Read for yourself! http://bit.ly/eEUzI4

60 weeks ago from Networking Tips, Washington D.C., Professional Writers and Editors and Baltimore Brazen2 more

 
Ty Unglebower We often seek help and give help as we go about our day. It is a staple of networking of a certain kind, even if we are not trying to network at any given time. Helping someone with a problem is a good way to gain a new grateful and helpful friend, or at least a new contact that will want to help you in the future if they can. But not if we seek to totally change the approach of those who come to us for help. There is a right and wrong way to render advice. My thoughts. http://bit.ly/gU07iO

64 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Networking Tips, Entry-Level Young Professionals and Baltimore Brazen2 more

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Megan Atkinson: I might talk to my manager about this. Maybe we could do a lunch-and-learn on good training/teaching techniques to reach a broad audience of learners.
64 weeks ago
Ty Unglebower: That couldn't hurt! I'd love to hear of any results from that.
64 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower Do you have any heroes? Do you think you need any? Or could the concept of the hero be harmful to us all? I explore this, and I'd like some of your feed back. http://bit.ly/hYupmC

65 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Baltimore Brazen, Creating a Life You Love and Creatively Inspired2 more

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Megan Atkinson: Additionally, I would not necessarily call him "my hero" (well, I might in a less literal sense since he's just the best dad a girl could have) as ...MoreAdditionally, I would not necessarily call him "my hero" (well, I might in a less literal sense since he's just the best dad a girl could have) as I don't aspire to duplicate his efforts. I do aspire often to emulate his courage or maybe his integrity and work ethic. But I see that as more of a role model relationship than that of a personal hero.
65 weeks ago
Edward Antrobus: It's also important to remember that heroes are people too. Not everything they do is right or you will agree. Mine personally is Ben Franklin. I ...MoreIt's also important to remember that heroes are people too. Not everything they do is right or you will agree. Mine personally is Ben Franklin. I quote him endlessly because he's probably the best there has ever been at combining wit and wisdom. I've read his autobiography three times. But he was very dismissive of the Quakers, which is the faith with which I best identify.

@Ty, I liked the part about Ty 3.0, Ty 4.0, etc. When I approached my 20th birthday, I experienced my quarter-life crisis (5 years early, always have been called mature for my age!). I sent everyone I knew an extremely long email (really a treatise) about phases of life and personal growth. I declared that I was entering the 4th phase of my life (infancy, childhood, and teen were the previous three) and would henceforth be known as ED4.0
65 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower My latest blog post is about substance over style, missing anniversaries, metaphorical boats and metaphorical hammers, and why remaining true to my online mission may condemn me to obscurity. http://bit.ly/erq5sr

67 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Baltimore Brazen, Creating a Life You Love and Creatively Inspired2 more

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Scrollwork: Tried the little envelop icon but it was for emailing your post out. Tried 'Subscribe to' but it led to an HTML view of your post. I'd have ...MoreTried the little envelop icon but it was for emailing your post out. Tried 'Subscribe to' but it led to an HTML view of your post. I'd have messaged you, but maybe other Brazen Careerists need to know the answer, too.
67 weeks ago
Ty Unglebower: I really am not sure what to tell you on that one...it seems to work for others. I don't really know what else to do to the blog to make it easier ...MoreI really am not sure what to tell you on that one...it seems to work for others. I don't really know what else to do to the blog to make it easier to subscribe to the feed.
65 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower You know what pisses me off in a lively discussion? It isn't when people differ from me. How shallow is that? It is when people begin to use their position, experience, or education to back up statements like, "You can't argue" or, "You have to accept". These things not only just piss me off and make me less diplomatic, but I see them as the last line of defense for a shallow protector of the status quo, who feels threatened by what others say, instead of empowered by what he is saying.

66 weeks ago from Networking Tips, Washington D.C. and Baltimore Brazen1 more

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Aurian Campbell: "These things not only just piss me off and make me less diplomatic, but I see them as the last line of defense for a shallow protector of the ...More"These things not only just piss me off and make me less diplomatic, but I see them as the last line of defense for a shallow protector of the status quo, who feels threatened by what others say, instead of empowered by what he is saying."

Virtual high five, Ty.
66 weeks ago
Ty Unglebower: I can't agree with the biggest mouths deserving the lead, Mehul. Some of the loudest mouths in a meeting are the very LAST people you want running ...MoreI can't agree with the biggest mouths deserving the lead, Mehul. Some of the loudest mouths in a meeting are the very LAST people you want running things in most cases. If the loud mouth nature really were due to their passion I could see where you are coming from. But anecdotal evidence in my experience suggest that usually the loudest ones are that way because they love to hear themselves talk.

And thanks, Aurian.
65 weeks ago
 
Ty Unglebower This day and age I think we are starting to take for Gospel certain metrics by which we assess someone's online presence, and hence, in our modern age, their professional value to us. Assuming no dichotomy between our offline lives and our online lives has also become an increasingly popular sentiment. Yet do we really have it that aligned? Do our metrics of online assessment of others hold water when the computer is off? My latest post asks this question. http://bit.ly/gjkzNa

68 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Creating a Life You Love, Networking Tips and Baltimore Brazen2 more

Edward Antrobus: Awesome posting. People spend too much time only placing value on what is searchable
68 weeks ago
 
TOP IDEA: Ty Unglebower To varying degrees in society we tend to make accommodations, both in our minds and in our expectations, for those who suffer from certain conditions or disorders. This is only fair and right of us. But just because somebody's obstacle has no name doesn't mean that their struggle is not just as serious, and just as deserving of consideration and accommodation. Unfortunately we as a society don't seem to keen on that idea. My blog post. http://bit.ly/gcxZZB

71 weeks ago from Washington D.C., Baltimore Brazen and Creating a Life You Love1 more

 
Dr. Woody Share one (1) career resolution you are going to make happen in 2011!!! And, let us hold you to it!!! http://ow.ly/3zsIQ

71 weeks ago from Atlanta Professionals, Beantown Bloggers, Bay Area Bunch and Baltimore Brazen2 more

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