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My boss has an awful temper and whenever something goes wrong she uses things I've told her about my personal life against me. How do you deal with a boss where you're so terrified of her? How do you explain why you're leaving in a job interview?
10.13.08
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If you want to stay you have two choices.
1) Summon the courage to talk with her, look her firmly in the eye and request that she no longer treats you with abuse. Or ...
2) You can change the way anyone treats you by beginning to change your mind about them. I once had a boss who stole my ideas and did not give me my fair quota of sales leads. It appeared as though he really had it in for me. So I decided that I would not suck up but afford him every human consideration and respect possible. Every time I thought of him I forced myself to focus only on his good qualities. Within six weeks I went from outcast to favored son and I never said a word to him or others but simply changed what I thought about him. If you choose use this method you can't complain to your family and friends about her. You must be sincere in your desire to improve your relationship.
If you decide to leave, don't worry about the explanation. Tell the whole truth but at least utilize #1 above so you don't look like a victim. In fact if you don't confront her and learn how to deal with bullies you will be more likely to repeat the situation in a new job. Life lessons are here to be fully embraced and learned. Stand up for yourself. I'm sure you have what it takes.
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