Even for a second, if you tune your ear to the radio these days you’ll hear something about the upcoming elections. Inexperience, age, gender, family values are all up for debate and personal opinion has amazingly transformed into experiential wisdom.  We all seem to have an idea of “what it takes” to be the next president/vice president of the U.S.  But in fact, we don’t.

I’ve never dated a man who could hold a candle to Paul, and most people would probably say they couldn’t because of the pedestal I placed him on. There’s truth in that.

Oh manI was all ready to be funny, tell you about my adventuresI just can’t do itHell I’ve been having trouble even finding humor for commentsAs I’m sure some of you have picked up on the fact that I don’t get a long with my parent-in-laws. It’s been …

It is a little tempting to say “have a great semester, give us a call sometime” and then never talk to your interns again. Why? Because we’re busy. But the people who are both busy and successful still make time to connect with other people.

I really couldn’t afford it, but I needed a vacation. So, I’m taking one. I figured a stay at a mental facility would cost a lot more than the bed and breakfast I rented.

So you get the idea that the DR trip was one big honking party. Here’s day 2 with a bizarre twist for Big Daddy Lance at the end…
Chilling at the Beach
We were all a bit hungover from the late night partying last night, so we slept in and didn’t get started until after lunch. Bobby […]

My summer as an intern at my law firm, as one of the firm acitivities, the summer interns went to the beautiful house of one of the then associates, who is now a partner, and somehow the discussion involving all women intern and associates turned to dating. Like who was dating who, and what drama dating created. It was enjoyable and funny, and reminded me why I like the group of people I work with so much (how often is it that you get to work with someone who was destined to be your best friend?). But it also made me worried about the possible intersection between dating and work.

It seems that quite a few associates (and partners?) have found love in the office. A lot of the cutest couples here started dating when they were both employed at the same place. And it has worked out for many. But there are also the horror stories, like associates who get caught in a compromising position with partners. Associates or partners who are married to other people caught in compromising positions. Stories about how female and male associates get ahead on their backs. And the list goes on. Furthermore, a rumor like this about a co-workers really makes the respect quotent take a dive. And makes people wonder if that individual is really competent at their job. When I was interviewing for summer intern positions in law school, I was repeatedly propositioned, and I do know that some students followed up on the numerous offers. I was, thankfully, very happily dating. I wonder, what would have happened if I did go back to the hotel room with the tall, brooding partner? Would anyone respect me now, if I had also chosen to work with someone who gave me a position because of how good I was in bed?

Right now, I am single, and I realize that with all the time and energy I put into work, I probably won’t spend very much time with people I don’t work with, even with my new vow to really try and get out there. And even if they don’t work at the same office, most of the people I meet who have dating potential are people who I inadvertently work with or for. The rules are difficult for this whole work-with/date situation. And I know I don’t want to deal with rumors. But I also really really want to be happy, and not close off the perhaps most valuable avenue for finding that special someone. Because dating a lawyer really isn’t that bad, especially when you can share lawyer humor jokes And, another lawyer will definitely understand my hectic up and down schedule, my frustration with strange things, and my passion for doing good and doing well.

Being a part of a community like your local church, reading group, or running club is the quickest way to make the changes you desire in your personal life. By connecting with like-minded people and being open and honest, real change can and will happen.

It’s not like he was a troll or anything. I went out with him a couple of times because he was interesting, but avoided anything physically intimate while I decided if I could become attracted to him (which is possible).

I don’t always know what I’m doing. I thought I was just putting on a brave face. When I put a brave face on, I only fool myself. And fool myself, I did.