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Note: This is a guest post from my Dad, Jay. He is an entrepreneur, who found his life’s calling as a Gemologist late in his life. I wanted his perspective, for me and you, to understand how he found his (somewhat bizarre) career path. Plus, who doesn’t love it when your rents guest post on your blog?
Pops and I
I don’t know what my generation was called. I guess eventually we became the “Baby Boomers.” But when I was young and trying to figure out what to do with my life I really didn’t have a clue what to do. I knew how to race motorcycles, I loved traveling, I wanted to find work that I loved and I wanted it to be something different. I struggled for some years looking for “my thing in life.” And quite frankly, didn’t find it until later, when I was 32 years old.
But here is some advice from your dear old dad about working and finding your place in life.
Not easy you say? How can you know what it is? Yet for some people it seems easy. They know from an early age what they want to do. This advice is not for them. They know what they love and want to do.
This advice is for those of you that are perhaps a little like I was when I was younger. I just didn’t know what to do. Sure I went to college and got a degree. But I never really wanted to work in the field I had studied (I studied speech pathology and am now a Gemologist). So I kept asking: “What am I going to do with my life?”

And here is one big secret to success in life that I wish I knew when I was 20-something: You must find something you Love to do. Some work that you would do even if you didn’t get paid; you would do it for the love of it. Love or passion for your work transforms it to a pleasure or a field to play in instead of a drudgery that must be endured for money.
Never work just for money. Sure you will sometimes have to take a job to pay the bills. And maybe it’s not the work you are destined to do. But never get stuck doing just that: making money to get by. It can ruin your life and wear you down.
Here is another clue: If you seek the work you love you will find it. Don’t give up. Stick with your dream to find that something that you can be passionate about doing. Eventually, you will find it; and then it’s a game changer.
Passion for your work naturally motivates you to do and learn more and more. Passion keeps you going during the inevitable rough periods of your career and allows you to overcome and ultimately succeed. Not just in your work but in your life.
There is a word, a concept really, that comes from one of the world’s wisdom traditions, the Vedic tradition of ancient India. That word says is all. That word is Dharma. There is no direct translation into English but vocation is close. Dharma is the work you were meant to do. It is the work or vocation that will support and nourish you and the world. It is the vocation that allows you to be aligned with your true purpose in life. And aligned with your purpose you are as powerful, charismatic, happy and successful as is possible for you.

Dad as he examines ruby rough in Burma at a Nepalese women’s market
If you find the work you love to do you will become naturally powerful. I believe everyone has a purpose in life. When you find it, align yourself with your purpose, and then you become successful. It is as if unseen forces come to your aid and give you strength, inspiration and direction that lead to greater success.
At that point, the money will come to you. You will be rewarded as well as can be hoped for. But more importantly, you will be a success in life, not just at a job.
@Caitlin Thanks, makes me a proud daughter ;)
My family talks about Dharma a lot (we have an widespread spiritual inclination) but I liked that he threw that in there, as well. Many people don't realize or believe that you have a calling or purpose in life, but when I see my Dad working in the field, traveling to the source and talking with people about gemstones I know it is his Dharma. Another important distinction is that it can be a purpose, not just one job that you love. E.G. I love working with people and collaborating around community/marketing. That could fall into a few categories but doesn't mean I have to be in love with my job, always. I just want to stray close to what I do well, in whatever career I find myself in. Thanks for sharing, Caitlin :)
I loved this guest post! Especially coming from a Dad. I had a really opposite experience with my father - and he is mainly the proponent of simply working for a living, and "work is not supposed to be fun - that's why it's called work." it was really great to see these concepts and how they can be applied to our lives now.
Loved!
@Beth I do have many friends who have the same experience so I do feel grateful my dad is a proponent of finding your purpose and doing something you love. When I asked him to write this I thought at first it was too idealistic, but then I realized, this is his story and his experience. It holds much more weight that he experiences this first hand and also took until age 32 to find "it."
I'm happy you enjoyed this, thanks for your comments. I've relayed them all to my Dad :)

Grace- (and Grace's Pops)
What a wonderful post! Thank you for sharing. I love the stories that emerge from people's passions.
I also find it so convincing that many elders and experienced adults and parents are singing the same tune when it comes to advice to young people: do what you love and stick to it.
This is the same advice my Mom gave on her recent guest post to my blog: http://phdetails.wordpress.com/.
So my question for you and your readers, Grace, is if there is a broad consensus from those who came before us on what we should do with our lives, why is it so hard to take that advice?
Thanks again for sharing-
Andrew
@JR It is hard to figure out and then DO. I always keep his words in the back of my mind and although Gen Y is largely an idealistic generation, it makes me happy to see a Baby Boomer living and breathing his dream (then passing it along to Gen Y themselves).
@Andrew I love that your mom guest posted on your blog, I'm checking it out right now! I think those that came before us all believe different things. For instance, many Baby Boomers have worked at the same company their entire life and have an ineffable work ethic where work is work, versus enjoy the work you do. It's simply a mindset and the way they were raised.
It's not as though my Dad is unique and maybe it's because of his entrepreneurship (outside the box mentality) but I take his advice daily. Doesn't mean I always agree with it...but in this case, seeing him, living his passion everyday inspires me. It might sound cliche, but I don't want to live my life any other way. So I too, am a seeker. What do you think about following elder generations' advice?