I’ve talked about arrogance being somewhat positive before, but there’s one important reason why it can get you far:

Arrogant people don’t take advice.

It’s not that they don’t want to learn or grow.

It’s not that they don’t practice or work hard.

It’s not that they think they know everything.

They just trust themselves more than others. And I think that’s great.

Reasons why this is a good decision:

- When people give advice they may understand your actions, but your feelings and thoughts will never be as clear to them as they are to you.

Arrogant people know that they can be wrong. But so can others. They will consider what you’re saying, but they won’t give it more credit just because “we should listen to others.” They will give it credit if it’s really something new to them.

I’ve found that my mother for example, the person who knows me more than anyone in the world, has seen this knowledge decrease with the years. My true passions, values, interests and ideas of the world are becoming less and less understood and predictable by people around me. So, should we really follow others’ advice?

- People’s advice is affected by some very human limitations. To name a few:

• Familiarity. People consider “good” what’s familiar to them, what they are used to doing. Consider this when listening to advice.
• Interests. If we can learn something from Freakonomics, it is that people act differently depending on what they can get from it.
• Ignorance. Sometimes people just don’t know enough. But this hasn’t stopped them before.
• Fear. Sometimes people don’t want to see you happy. It can remind them how unhappy they are.

Here’s the thing: Arrogant people listen. They really do. They understand that advice is overrated, because the information available to outsiders is insufficient and twisted. They see how wrong others can be.

Arrogance is about responsibility.

About being the cause of your victories and failures.

About feeling satisfied with your decisions and stop pointing fingers when something goes wrong.

Arrogant people, can always be held accountable.

Final Note: Language is incompetent. Don’t like the word arrogant? Suggest another one, invent one if you want. But let’s refrain ourselves from debating “definitions” and just get the underlying message.