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Current Mood: Accomplished (finally finished an article that's been hanging over my head for days!)
Current Song: Poker Face by Lady Gaga
A brief encounter with a fellow blogger and brazen careerist about the virtues of nerdy women got me to thinking about my own nerdiness. As one of many, I am dedicated this blog post to extolling the virtues of cool nerds (like me). I think everyone should date a nerd at least once in their life. Here are my reasons why you might benefit from the underrated and understated, yet oh so cool nerdy girl!
1. We are well-versed in something - It's not all style, no substance with us. Whether we're versed in the art of the PS2, have read every single classic imaginable or love the Simpsons, we have an interest other than weekend bar hops. We might have large collection of vintage tshirts or records or bottle caps! We're good at what we do too and will regale you with entertaining stories or at the very least, quote TV characters to make you laugh ("Welcome to Itchy and Scratchy Land; Where nothing could possibli go wrong. Possibly go wrong. That's the first thing that's ever gone wrong!")
2. We value relationships - In highschool, we weren't popular. We didn't have a boyfriend every other week and we certainly didn't go around the block any number of times. We've watched from afar for many years, and we think we understand it. We won't drop our lives to if you pay us a little attention (we're too secure for that now). But we will value what time we have with you, and trust me, we're pretty entertaining.
3. We are NOT boring - Most of us have a lot to say. And a lot of it is not obscure. We throw in the occasional trekkie reference, maybe, but on the whole, we're thoughtful and sincere and are down with a lively conversation or debate anytime. We're far from boring, because we enjoy all manner of different activities from Jazz festivals to Farmers Markets. Some of us are even athletic (who'da thunk it!).
4. You can take us home to mom! - When we were younger, we spent a lot of time with our families, and so we value family. You'll never have to think twice about letting us meet your mother. We're quirky, but we can tone it down. Besides our parents taught us how to respect adults and so we know to help clear the table or to talk to your mom about where she got that vase. Trust us, she'll like us!
5. We're in it for the long haul! - We don't like dating a million people at once. We find it energy zapping and kind of tedious. We won't step out on you. We know we've got a good thing going. It took us so long to find you, so we won't just cast you by the wayside.
So here it is. On behalf of all the nerdy women out there, give a nerd a chance! We're pretty awesome and make for some interesting conversation :) So go on, then!
That's it from me. I'll write again soon :) Happy monday everyone!
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Comments
09.15.09
I just got to read this excellent post this morning (Tuesday) and it got me to thinking back to my HS days.......... What I wouldn't have given to have even known a "nerdy girl"; maybe they actually did exist and I just never saw them - my own fault. Of course, I was no pretty boy, just another ignored mostly student...... Thanks for the uplifting post Mehnaz!
09.15.09
Amen, my nerdy sister.
Sure, some days I wish I looked like a supermodel, but most of the time I'm pretty happy with the way I am because I'm smart, I do interesting work and I'm just me.
09.15.09
Absolutely love this. Now I'm off to spend hours on my social networking sites, blogging, and pushing the internet startup I'm a part of. Love the nerd life and anyone not in agreement is surely missing out :)
09.15.09
I ain't gonna lie, I think nerdy girls are hot. I would add a 6th item to the list, nerdy girls are usually great in the sack!
09.15.09
Kevin - I wish there were more guys who would have looked out for nerdy girls back then. We're pretty valuable :)
Katherine and Cassandra - Glad you're with me! thanks for the comments. Why not value ourselves for what we have right?
Lance - Glad you think nerds are hot :)
09.15.09
I wont go as far as Lance, but a nerdy girl can definitely turn me on. Sometimes you just need to lay back and talk tech to someone instead of yelling at a screen or another guy.
Also if they can beat me in Halo or another game props to them, just makes it that much better :).
09.15.09
@Trace: Dude, don't pussyfoot around. It's the whole good girl on the outside, bad girl on the inside thing. It's a great conflict that creates tons of sexual tension. Also, you're not going to seduce a hot nerdy girl via Halo, you have to make them feel sexy.
09.15.09
Haha thanks Lance for the call out. I'm well aware it will take more than Halo to get them going. I definitely have a few ways to make them feel sexy :)
09.15.09
It's interesting to note who self-identifies themselves as "nerds." Most ambitious, over-achieving, talented people are nerds, they just make a concerted effort not to admit it :-)
I'm pro-nerd... self identifying too! Now let's party.
09.15.09
I wholeheartedly agree with this article.
-a self proclaimed nerd-and-a-half
09.15.09
Lance - It's not really where I'm going here, but if you choose to believe it, that's fine. I think there's much more to nerds than just geekery
JR - I knew I could count on you to be pro-nerd! And the whole self-identification thing just comes from finally accepting yourself.
09.15.09
I couldn't agree more with any of this! I used to be so offended when people would peg me as "nerdy" but lately I've been so proud of it. So what if I'd rather partake in a WoW raid or read Twilight than drink my life away like everyone else my age. So what if I can probably kick a boys butt in CoD, Halo, and Rock Band. Someday, some boy will appreciate me for it. :)
09.15.09
I couldn't agree more with any of this! I used to be so offended when people would peg me as "nerdy" but lately I've been so proud of it. So what if I'd rather partake in a WoW raid or read Twilight than drink my life away like everyone else my age. So what if I can probably kick a boys butt in CoD, Halo, and Rock Band. Hey, I may even know a few programming languages if anyone needs development help. Someday, some boy will appreciate me for it. :)
09.15.09
What's nerdy about Rock Band and Twilight? I've partaken of both of those things and I think they're both super cool...
09.15.09
@Lance- I think there's a connotation that women who game are nerds. Especially if they are really good at it. I play several different games every month thanks to a Gamefly subscription and I think it makes me fun to hang out with. It will take a while for perception to change in the general population.
09.16.09
As an unabashedly nerdy female (comic books, horror movie, robots, video games, give 'em to me!) I felt compelled to share some feedback here. I think the sexiest trait a nerdy female may have to offer is being relatively laid back. We're busy, we have hobbies- we're not going to be up your ass. We have better things to do.
@ Lance: Hackneyed attempts to make a “girl feel sexy” might not work on a matter-of-fact smart, nerdy female. I personally don’t like the bull, cut to the fun please.
09.16.09
Great post! Thank you for pointing out what seems so obvious to me!
While I try to "keep it together" when I'm around non-nerd-friendly people, I'm not afraid to geek-out about interests typically considered nerdy. I used to go to Comic-Con when it was all about Adam West, Julie Newmar, and Anthony Daniels. I'm proud of my Trekkie background and jumped on the gaming bandwagon. I'm even writing a post about ultimate nerd-dom: dating in the context of "Pride and Prejudice and Zombies."
Nerdy girls are alive and well, and SO much fun!
09.16.09
@Vanessa: The sexiest trait about nerdy females is that they are sexy, not laid back (being laid back is not inherently sexy, it's just attractive). There is a between-the-lines conflict going on, ie the good girl/bad girl or outer nerdy girl vs. inner sexual vixen, whatever you want to call it, and that's what fires a lot of guys up.
Also, who said anything about hackneyed? Everyone wants to be appreciated and made to feel sexy, there's no BS going on there.
09.16.09
Liana, Amanda, Vanessa, Emily:
Glad you all responded, girls! The interests of the nerdy girl are multivariate and not only relegated to gaming and start trek. Go forth and nerd out (and don't forget your Monty Python reference please)!
Lance
So many different things are sexy. Whether it's the whole inner/outer dichotimy or the vast knowledge of hockey trivia, there is something for everyone. We're good at games and can pretty much call you out on one, if you've decided to play, so player beware :)
09.19.09
@Mehnaz: Lol fair warning then. The only games I play are on an Xbox. When it comes to relationships and attraction, I'm perfectly straightforward.
Good use of the word multivariate, btw.
09.19.09
One of the best things about dating nerds, especially nerds in their 20's/30's? Nerds didn't spend all of high school trying to be popular, pretending to be something they weren't. Nerds don't have to try to find things to talk and be passionate about. Nerds have spent most of their lives being questioned, teased and that's some of the nicer stuff. But now that school is done and (for the most part) the popularity contest is over, nerds are the ones who are running the show. The cool/popular/fake people are falling off the radar or finally enduring the reality of ridicule.
They are confident (usually) in who they are. And there is NOTHING sexier that confidence on a person.
PS - I identify with dork more than nerd...what do you think the differences are? For some reason I just think dorks are cuter. Weird much?!
09.19.09
Elisa,
excellent points! and yes, even though the workplace can be a popularity contest at times, it's always good to know that we get ahead on merit most times.
I've always wondered about nerd vs dork. I would assume nerds have more book smarts? But then again, i'm never really sure. What do you think the diff is?
Lance - Thanks! I try :)
09.30.09
Hey nerdy girls,
I am a nerdy girl extraordinaire. :) Video games, anime, you name it. I just started my blog christinabrown2009.blogspot.com/ and I would like you guys here to check it out. It is nerdy, sexy, and chic all at the same time.
More nerdy stuff will be added soon so follow the blog! :) A little self-promotion does not hurt. ;P
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