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Facebook helps you connect and share with the people in your life.
Think about this statement. Are these people, these Facebook friends, really in our lives?
The way to show that you care, in our contemporary society, is now communicated through the Internet. I feel close to someone because they’re my friend on Facebook. I know what’s happening in their life because they posted pictures from a
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09.02.09
I'm not sure if it's the Internet's fault for this phenomenon.
I too have moved away from childhood friends to a new place. For awhile we stayed in touch endlessly via Facebook. However, after time, it became exactly how you described it too: trivial.
Part of it was that I couldn't maintain those close relationships online. But a bigger part of it was the fact that I was growing up. I don't have a lot of time to maintain as many friendships as I had growing up. Maybe what you're feeling is something similar ...
I realize that there's a reason why my Mom has 15-20 Facebook friends and I have close to 1,000. Because as we grow older we don't have time for all those people. We're going to start to question how we communicate to family/friends online and who we decide to communicate to.
My Mom loves Facebook. But she uses it a lot differently than I do. Maybe it's not about the tool, just how we're using it.
09.02.09
I agree with Ryan. Facebook is a tool and people use it differently.
Here's the question to ask yourself - What would I do if I didn't use Facebook to keep in touch?
If your answer is that you would spend the time to connect with that person more deeply in another way, then yes Facebook is hurting your relationships.
But if your answer is that you wouldn't connect with them AT ALL, then the 'shallowness' of Facebook is better than nothing.
09.02.09
I feel like I have a set amount of socializing I can do (I'm definitely and introvert, so others may see things differently), so when I was on facebook it allowed me to interact with a lot of people a little. Now I'm in a relationship and I've almost completely dropped off of facebook - most of my socializing energy goes towards one person (and a few close friends).
While facebook is just a tool, the tools you use influence what you do & facebook (and most social networking tools) are not geared for deep, intimate connections.
09.02.09
I wonder too, though I've never used FB much, got rid of it in college, and can't seem to remember my names or passwords once I resigned up for it. I think, people are beginning to live in virtual worlds where they think they can have friends, save the world and all sorts of things with very little effort, and it's just not the case. Life is to be lived, all else should be used an addendum to the live we lead offline. Though I understand how people whose life and work revolves around social media might see it differently.
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