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Posted On 07.29.09

"Well, I'll lay my boots to rest when I'm impressed. So, I triple knot 'em and forgot 'em."~Daylight by Aesop Rock

I’m going to respond to Holly Hoffman’s post about being a workaholic, or using the term as a vail for lacking better things to do with one’s life.

I accept Holly’s point that no job or goal in life is worth one’s health. I’ve honestly felt quite sympathetic regarding her repeated health issues and can fully agree with her decisions to scale back her ambitions whether permanently or temporarily. Sometimes young people get ahead of themselves with what they think can be piled on their plates and just overwhelm their senses completely by working all day, all night, not sleeping enough and neglecting their bodies. Complete balance always seems to be just out of reach, but taking time out to at least seek a balance in most aspects of your life is healthy and smart.

However, I also feel if people are interested in bettering themselves, their situations or the lives of people around them through superhuman feats of work, weird sleep patterns and periods of irrational emotional behavior, more power to them. I come from a poor, single-parent family, so already in my quite modest income, I find myself upwardly mobile. How about that? That’s thanks to my hard work and the opportunities that some kind people have offered (that I made sure to capitalize on) I find myself in an even better position to continue bettering myself.

At 25, working a full time job, a part time job and running a small freelance copy writing operation, I am working more now than I ever have in my whole life. I’m taking care of myself physically, but I don’t sleep as much as I should. However, some new developments, specifically this new part time gig, have given me the new vigor I need to push through the weariness and emotional pain of being tired so that I can eventually take my current situation to the next level. Plus I’m refusing to look for meaningless work anymore. I crave meaning and finding meaning on the messy bedroom floor of life is no easy task. It takes work.

Do I have a social life? Yes, I do. I see my friends, I go to hip hop shows, I go to cafes and I go on dates. Do I have a huge block of free time for someone else to fill up? No, I don’t. However, I feel like I can still be the best person possible to the people I care about because I do in fact care about them.

So, what does this all say about me? Well, I happen to be in good physical health, of strong mind and of solid will. My intent is guiding me and the fact that I’m able to tie those factors together makes me a desirable person to have around, both on a personal and professional level. I’m quite happy and proud to be labeled a workaholic, but on second thought, I’d probably want to come up with a better name for it… How about fisher of awesome fish? :-D

Some people work themselves to death. Some people do whatever they can to not lift a finger their whole lives. It’s a choice you can make. If you grow into an adult, the least you can do is make a choice and live with it. If you can find better things to do in life than work because you see something more, than by all means, collect unemployment and do your thang. If you’re willing to kill yourself by working 100 hours a week for a corporation that could very well not care if you exist, go for it! Me, I’ll work hard for a bit and hopefully have the presence of mind to take my chips and leave my cards at the table when the time is right.

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07.30.09

Props on the article and the Aesop Rock quote and vid.

It takes sacrifice to be successful at anything. Hard work, 4 hours sleep, whatever it takes. We just need a bit of balance and it looks like you have that down. I still struggle a bit with this myself.

As far as not sleeping enough, I can't imagine that there is someone with a successful business who does. Not a business in the growing stages at least.

Let Nas tell it:

"I never sleep, cause sleep is the cousin of death!"

Haha. Cool post.

07.30.09

@Rohan, thanks a bunch for the comment! I really am a fan of sacrifice, but not for sacrifices sake. You've gotta plan your suffering, endure it and come up better off... that's how I see it anyways. :-)

07.31.09

Great post, JR. I'm not against sacrificing to get what you want - I'm not sure you can get anything worth having without some kind of sacrifice. You want a dog, you sacrifice a certain amount of freedom. You want a relationship, you sacrifice a night at the bar for a night on the couch (not a big sacrifice IMO).

You want to get ahead in your career/business/life, you sacrifice nights of sitting on the couch watching So You Think You Can Dance (or whatever the hell it is normal people do on weekday nights) for nights of sitting in front of the computer building websites, logos, finding clients, crunching P&Ls, etc. This doesn't seem like a big sacrifice to me, either.

I think some of us are just wired differently. This is not workaholism in my opinion. This is simply the way some of us operate. The difference between how I was before the surgery and how I am now is the pressure I put on myself. If the site doesn't get done tonight, no big deal. I'm going to sleep.

So, that's my thing: How much are you willing to sacrifice? What's the payoff? Like you, I'm willing to sacrifice more for *my* business as opposed to a corporate job. That's not worth it for me. Nothing is worth my health, my love, and my life.

How happy my life is, is dependant on that balance - I'm not happy if I don't work afterhours. I literally get depressed, but how much is the key.

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