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My boss called me into her office from across the hall, asking if she could speak to me for a moment. Instinctively, I grabbed my notebook and a pen, and made my way in. A group of about 5 of my co-workers immediately burst into song. On the desk, there was a chocolate cupcake, and a card that various people from around the floor had signed. It was so sweet of them to think of me, and to put themselves through the potentially-awkward task of singing aloud in such a small group...
“Happy Birthday to youuuuu, Happy Birthday to youuuuu, Happy Birthday dear Laurennnnn…”
My eyes darted from person to person, I sort of clasped my hands behind me, then in front of me, muttered “Awww”, sang along for a second before realizing that it was sort of silly to sing to myself, and ultimately just resigned to rocking side to side to the rhythm of the song, awkwardly waiting for it to conclude.
I witnessed this same exact fiasco 2 more times over the course of the next week: one woman at a restaurant covered her face with her hands the entire time her friends sang, another guy at a conference I attended just shook his head, put his hands in his pockets and looked down at the ground. When I mentioned the observation to a friend, she recalled how one of her own co-workers had simply broken into “conductor hands” and flamboyantly lead the group as they sang.
So, what are you supposed to do when people outside of your close friends/families sing Happy Birthday to you? The question is a particularly interesting one for me because I think it speaks to a much bigger irony: Why do so many of us (no matter how confident and comfortable we are) find it so difficult to relish in moments where we are the center of praise and outward appreciation? Especially when, often, that’s the very thing we seek, crave, and strive for… Thoughts? What do you do when people sing Happy Birthday to you?

Unfortunately I have nothing to add, having faced this same predicament. But I want to know if there is an optimal solution, particularly for a young professional.
Perhaps we could take a cue from little kids--what do kids do when "Happy Birthday" is being sung to them? Focus on the cake? Sing along and shout "me!" when everyone else is saying "you"?

My birthday was on Monday so I know the feeling. I may pretend that I am getting a prestigious award, I look at my friends/co-workers and my cake, and I just internalize the short-lived appreciation of all that is me. It only happens once a year...

I think birthdays are special! It is the only holiday that truely belongs to only you. I think it's important to take in the moment and let people make you feel special.
It's always awkward to have people staring at you singing but it happens once a year! Enjoy the attention!
I can relate to this feeling. I wonder if it really makes most people uncomfortable, or if it is just certain personality types. I always assumed it was just my personality type. I don't like to be the center of attention, and I especially don't like being shoved into the center of attention with no warning.
Luckily, I have a lot of experience dealing with this so I've become a pretty good actor. I smile, chuckle, nod my head to the beat of the song, and basically pretend I'm enjoying it. Then it's a short "thanks everyone", and we have cake.
Cara, I hope you realize the irony of "letting people make you" do something on a holiday that "truly only belongs to you".
Personally I think it should be the other way around: It's my holiday so I get to do what I want. However, I know that we don't live in a vacuum, so we have to take other's desires to sing happy birthday against our desire to avoid the embarrassment. It's all part of the price we pay for living in polite society.
Just remember, while no man (or woman) is a island, some of us are long peninsulas!
I hate being the center of attention in most cases, so I always find it a bit tough to stand there being sung to.
I suppose it might be some personality types. Or it might just be that you don't really know what to do with yourself while people are singing.
I like the conductor hands idea...I might just use that one!
I've banned people from singing happy birthday - I don't want to pay royalties. OK - I jest.
Birthdays in general have never been a really big thing for me. They have for my family, but I never really found them to be a pomp and circumstance type of moment. I enjoy having a lively conversation along with drinks and friends - just having a good time. I don't like the singing and clapping and things that generally happen pre-birthday-cake-candle-blowout.

As awkward as it is to be sung to, we get a kick out of singing it to others and watching them stand there looking like as if they want to run away.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39A2J-yo2Nc
Love,
The Old Ladies