
I have learned and forgotten two languages - Tagalog and French.
I was born in the Philippines. When I was five years old my aunt, who was raised in America, came for a visit. I asked her if she spoke Tagalog and she said no.
“You should learn!” I insisted. As if learning a second language as an adult (she was in her 20’s I think) was a snap. After all, she looked Filipino, she should innately know how to speak it. As a completely bilingual child, the daughter of
Well, I wouldn't say that skills (including language proficiency) are perishable. You can get them back. As with all other skills, if you don't practice them they suffer from atrophy. If you play a video game for a long time, you get good at it. You put it away for a year and suddenly those levels that were a piece of cake are hard again.
When I returned to the US I was completely isolated in an English only community for 4 years. I never spoke the language I spoke for the last 13 years of my life! My comprehension and reproduction of higher level language suffered. If I didn't speak the limited language that I spoke with my parents I would have lost even more capacity for that language. One summer after high school i went back for 3 months - it all came back. After that I started consuming content in that language and it's back. I blog in that language, I push myself to learn more.
Not all is lost :-)
By the way, rosetta stone is expensive and geared toward a particular kind of learner. It's not a panacea that works with everyone. I've studied 10 languages thus far. I have to say that when you are learning a language (as with many other things) the learning aspect is a social activity. You need to be around other people learning, with a native speaker (or many native speakers) and you need to maximize your exposure to spontaneous conversation. Software can only go so far. You can memorize the correct answers and you still may not have learned.
I speak and write 3 languages currently, Spanish, French, and English. I spent my elementary and part of my middle school years in Tasmania and had a bit of an accent when I came back here.
I do agree if you don't use it it tends to fade. For me I have some Cuban family and a lot of Hispanic friends so the Spanish is easy to keep up with, it is spoken around me quite a bit. When I worked for an NGO there were a lot of people who spoke French so it was helpful to have them speak only French when I was around, and I currently have one friend who speaks French to me all the time, she is from Côte d'Ivoire. It helps to read books in the language you are hoping to retain as often as possible if you are not around people who speak the language.
I'm thinking of tackling Arabic next. I'm not sure about language programs or how they, or if they work.
It is extremely hard to learn another language as an adult. I am in the midst of learning Spanish. I took Honors Spanish in High School and I didn’t keep it up. The phrase, “If you don’t use it you lose it,” is so true. It’s starting to come back to me (not as fast as I would like!), but I truly wish I had the opportunity to pick up the language at a younger age. There are many studies that demonstrate the younger you are the easier it is to pick up a language.
A friend of our family is from the Philippines and sadly their children do not know how to speak Tagalog. I’m not sure why they never taught their children (perhaps a means of forcing them to assimilate), but now it is going to be even tougher for them.
By the way, Instant Immersion has some really good CD’s for helping people learn language the conversational way (meaning, this is how people really speak and not the formal way they teach you in school).
I was surprised by how much French I realized I remembered when I was forced to communicate on my recent trip. I was also disheartened to realize how much I had forgotten from my schooling. While I was there, I tried to use it as often as possible: a taxi driver wanted to speak English; I wanted to practice my French. We compromised and somehow had a conversation. On my trip home, someone else started a conversation. "I'm sorry, I don't understand what you're saying," I told him. Then I asked, "Do you speak French?" We had a great conversation, but it was later that I realized he had originally been speaking English.
The human mind is incredible in this regards, kind of adapting as it sees fit to your surroundings. I agree with Dr. Pepper. Language is a skill in that, the more you practice, the more proficient you'll be. Writing to your friend in French is a great idea -- maybe even a little can go a long way in getting back what seems so important to you. Good luck!
"Use it or lose it."
Nothing is truer when it comes to languages. I've lost what Vietnamese I knew, because I haven't used it in over 20 years. I've lost what little of my German, Italian, Hebrew, Arabic that I orginally had, becuse I haven't used it in far too long. Let's not mention the Japanese and Hawaiian that I haven't spoken since high school.

This is so true. English wasn't my first language, but then I used English so much I completely lost everything else I knew. Re-learning is a difficult, difficult process. And of course lots of practice is the best answer to that problem, but if you want to be proficient in multiple languages, especially ones from completely different language families and with completely different scripts and alphabets, at this age it is so much harder to keep all of them separate in your head and not mix them up. I have at one point or another been proficient in 4 different languages and trying to retain them all now is no picnic -- it's a lot easier when you're younger.
I knew and lost Czech/Slovak, and Spanish. My goal is to re-learn at least Slovak and Spanish within the next 5 years or so.
You're right, it's easy for kids. I learned fluent English, with no accent, within one year when I was 7. Even though it is hard to re-learn as an adult, it is substantially easier to re-learn as an adult than to just pick up a new language you are not familiar with.
I moved to the U.S. speaking fluent Bulgarian when I was 6. Since then I almost never used it more than a few times a year, but I still know how to get by, even with a strong American accent and bad verb conjugation.
If I try to talk to my cousins or grandparents, about work, politics, etc. though, it's almost impossible. You have to consider, that at a young age, you weren't having these conversations, so maybe you didn't really forget that much. Sometimes adult communication just sets the bar higher.
I've never been completely fluent in a second language, but I did get pretty good at both French and Italian in high school and college, respectively.
In college, after 4 years of studying Italian, I got accepted to a study abroad program - in France. So, I had to go back and re-learn my French.
It was easier since I'd been studying another romance language, and at the same time, the result was that I'd frequently slip into "Fritalian."
I've always hoped that if and when I go back to relearn either or both, it will be easier because I've already done it once. I've really been wanting to pick up the Italian again, so if people do have recommendations for good language programs, I'd love to hear them.
Very true. I learned spanish throughout high school, but haven't taken it in 2 years. So I decided to brush up by taking a spanish class now, but sadly I'm still not doing so well with it. I wish I could remember everything quickly, but it's a lot harder when I don't have time, and when I don't get the chance to use Spanish on a regular basis.