Run. Run far away. Stalker/clingy guy ultimately wants you to conform to HIS idea of what you should be and do, and smothering doesn't even begin to describe it. There are still great regular guys out there that love us no matter what, so don't give up.

Former clingy guy dater here - YOU DON'T WANT THAT!From my experience, clingy men may wait on you (hand and foot) but they also want you to tell them what to do and how to do it. They're notoriously needy (hence CLINGY). If you are an independent, strong willed woman (which, I'm sure you are) - a clingy man will only serve to get on your nerves. If you think he is clingy now, what do you think his needy, indecisive nature will do for you in the future?
Women need balance just as much as men - and you don't want to be the leader ALL the timem in a relationship. It creates resentment (not romance).

Good points! I definitely could not stand to date a guy without any likes of his own, besides me. I'm also very indecisive sometimes and I wouldn't want to give direction all of the time. But, like E, maybe what I need is a romantic/sweet guy next. My current boyfriend is sweet, but not in the translatable romance of say movies and books. Thanks.

I married my clingy guy.

We met in grad school. I was dating someone else when he decided I was the best thing EVAR. We dated. I broke it off. He wouldn't go away. We dated. I broke it off. He wouldn't go away. I dated someone else, who broke my heart. I turned to Mr. Clingy for comfort, who provided it. I refused to date again. He started asking me to marry him. I turned him down six times.

But, we were becoming friends through all of this. I discovered that I appreciated the safe, secure feeling I had around him.

I told him I'd be willing to consider dating again if he made changes x,y,z, and a through r.

He considered this offer and responded to it: You'll *consider* dating me if I do all that? Thanks but no thanks.

And I realized that I liked his self-respect. I changed my offer. I decided he could be himself, but I needed him to stop smoking. I have issues with smoking. That was my hard limit, but if he'd give that up, I'd actually date him. He did, and I did. And finally I said yes before he had a chance to ask me again to marry him.

Have I looked back with questions and regret? Damn straight. Have I considered cheating? Absolutely. But I don't kid myself. I probably would have continued falling in love with every guy who smiled at me prettily, no matter who I married, because I would eventually get to know all the warts and bathroom smells, and the grass would always be greener on the other side.

I've been married to my Mr. Clingy for nearly 14 years, and we have a very good life. We even went through a phase where I was madly attracted to him, about five years ago.

I believe I made the right choice for me. But we don't ever get to know what life might have been like otherwise. It'll always be a question. But that could never have been any different.

I recently started dating a clingy guy. I had no idea he was clingy at first. He's made me feel appreciate and like I'm his world. He wants to spend all his free time with me. I've usually been the clingier one in relationships. I've always tried to control that side of me because I know guys don't like it. Since this relationship is new I can't say for sure how it will turn out but I am happy right now and loving being so important for someone. You really have to think about how a clingy person would fit you. If you tend to be on the clingy side too it might be a good match for you. I've actually always wanted someone who would worship me and always want to be around me and that's what I finally have so I'm enjoying it.