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I'm pretty sure I saw a study at some point that says third=party introductions are key, but I cannot for the life of me remember where I read it. Sorry :(
I've seen studies on that argue both sides of the co-habitation coin.I think you should do what best suits you.
I'd be more interested in research surrounding how Gen Y meets their future spouses. I'm betting it's online - but not solely dating sites, but through blogging, facebook, etc.
Another thing I've heard that is a huge counterargument to the co-habitation/divorce thing: People that live together are the type that are willing to get divorced. Basically, if they are morally OK with living together, they are morally OK for getting divorced, because they do not put an overemphasis on the marriage contract.
I should really find a study to back that up, but I know I've read that! I'll let you know if I do find it.
As for the age question, I remember a couple of years back reading an analysis on msnbc.com on average marriage ages and they found that there was a relationship between how far you lived from one of the coasts and the age you got married. The average age was lowest in the middle of the country (early twenties) and proceeded to get higher the closer you got to the coasts with it being in the early thirties.
Hi,
As an avid reader of the blog posts here I feel compelled to comment in regards to your search for information on marriage statistics. As a Gen Y librarian I would encourage you to consider using your local library to find academic studies and statistics. They have a wide range of databases like APA's PsychInfo that could help you to get started. Or check out the Librarians Internet Index at www.lii.org that searches a select group of websites that have been vetted for relevant content.
Libraries are used to answering questions in regards to "friendly bets."
Just a suggestion,
Kim
public university libraries are generally open to the public, being tax payer funded, in part, so their librarians are helpful as needed. University libraries tend to be better stocked in terms of easy/instant access to resources.
When researching, nothing is more frustrating that knowing what journal you need, but not being able to get a copy of it for a week because it has to be sent for.
Actually, what's more frustrating is to realize that you know what journal/book/video you need, but to find that it is non-circulating in a special interest library that you don't have access to.
I've done a lot of research, can you tell?
I met my husband at Red Robin. He was my waiter but our first encounter was more like a date than a typical restaurant encounter. He asked me to marry him at that restaurant ;)
Kate,
I've only had the pleasure of visits to special interest rooms where the library police insist pencils and 3x5 notecards are the only things you can take into the room.
To be so close to the info, but to not be able to get it. . . that really must hurt.
A great article about cohabitation and divorce is "Sliding Versus Deciding: Inertia and the Premarital Cohabitation Effect" which concludes that one reason for the higher divorce rate among cohabitation before marriage is "cohabitation "just happened" potentially indicating a lack of decision making about the transition to cohabitation." The article also mentions the idea that those who live together before marriage perhaps have a more permissive idea on divorce already.
What interests me is how these numbers will change when gathered for our (and future) generations. With all the online dating sites, not to mention the general online networking these days, what percentage of people are now meeting their spouses online? And will it help the divorce rate, since people are supposedly being matched more appropriately by using compatibility tests on match.com, etc?
Meeting you spouse is a great question.
I met my spouse at summer camp - nothing beats a summer camp love romance that never ended. We were both educators at a science based camp.
I have since met many people - who met their spouses at summer camp.
So I wonder how high the stats on people who met met their spouse at work are?
I met my husband late in College, we were in the same program of study and had a couple of mutual friends. We didn't get married until about 7 years after that, but we moved in together a few months after I completed my degree.
There were several turning points in the relationship in which it could have ended, or cooled off, and at each of those decision points one or the other of us decided to commit to the relationship. For my husband it was when I went back to school but he was graduated and living 6 hours away. For me it was moving in with him after graduation. I think if you don't have these decision points that you can 'fall' into co-habitation and feel like there is no option but to eventually get married. Even later on we decided to buy a house together, at that point I was as committed as married, it just was not official for another few years.
Ben,
I was googling office dating statistics and discovered that this post is cited in the Examiner - Billings Edition:
http://www.examiner.com/r-3748779~Where_Do_People_Meet_Their_Spouse_.html
I don't know official stats ... but I guess a coffee joint or friend's party would be on top of the list.
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