Diagnosing My Co-Workers, Easing My Frustration

Let’s face it:  We don’t always work with people we like.  In fact, we might work with people we don’t like at all.  We may even work with people so crazy that the Richter scale seems to pick up their mood swings, but somehow we have to find ways to still work with them and maintain our sanity.  Although, I hear the mental hospital is accepting applications.

For all of those individuals who say that a psychology major is worth nothing without a Master’s or PhD, let us look at all the ways psychology has helped me continue my job in a sane manner:

We may all work with difficult bosses at some point.  So what do we do? Look up all of their supposed psychological disorders in the DSM-IV, and take pity on them for being so crazy.  Just smile and nod when they say things that don’t add up, all the while thinking how great they’d look wearing a straight-jacket.And later, they may take our smiling and nodding to mean we’re “laid back,” making them appreciate us even more in their not-quite-there mind.

And if your boss isn’t crazy enough to diagnose, there’s always the co-workers.  They may be hypochondriacs, constantly going home sick or trying to go home sick.  They may have narcissistic behaviors, thinking they are the saving grace of the company.

OR, if you’re lucky, they have some obsessive-compulsive behaviors, and end up keeping your entire workspace organized.

Hopefully they have something really fun to diagnose to keep you really busy during any down-time.

If you have subordinates, I think this is the best and most helpful time to understand the inner-workings of people.  Because I have a boss that was not trained properly in management and people skills, I see what works and doesn’t work in the management field.  And then I get to use my knowledge to be the most helpful “teacher/mentor” of my own.

Recently, I’ve been given charge of a high-functioning high school volunteer with a few diagnosed personality disorders.  As we walked the halls, she told me that she had been diagnosed with Asperger’s disorder, bi-polar disorder, and one other disorder that I can’t remember.  (Probably because I suffer from some sort of dementia)

As she was telling me this, I almost wanted to sigh with relief.  FINALLY, a person who is open with all of their personality quirks.

When working with a bunch of crazies, it’s always nice when someone just admits they’re crazy.

So have a ball with the DSM-IV catalog of crazy.  With a little psychological analysis, you can be working with a bunch of compulsive liars and sociopaths.  Congrats!

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9 RESPONSES TO "DIAGNOSING MY CO-WORKERS, EASING MY FRUSTRATION"

Ian Selvarajah

Wow. As I read this, all I kept thinking was: "I hope that's not her real name!"

I think the new title is a little stronger than you originally intended (I know you've been through that before!), but good for you for being open and honest!

August 27, 2008 5:47 pm
Norcross

Pretty strong stuff. One thing to remember, though: if everyone at your office is 'crazy' but you...then you're the 'crazy' one.

August 27, 2008 5:50 pm
Tiffany

To be fair, the original post on her blog does state that she is not a psych major and this post was for fun only.

August 28, 2008 1:22 pm
Julie Cajigas

Don't you worry about your boss reading this? Are you posting under a pseudonym, or are you just very brave?

I used to work in a tough environment, and even saying that here makes me nervous.

I just don't want to end up "dooced"

I hear you though. Navigating the personalities is key almost anywhere, so it helps to know how to work them - even if that means knowing the flaws.

August 27, 2008 3:26 pm
Breanne

I'm a little shocked at this post. I have an undegrad and Master's in psychology, and would never:
1) Use the term "crazy" in reference to someone who had a genuine disorder. It's just offensive.
2) Assume that I could make a "clinical diagnosis" about someone without a clinical degree.
3) Mistake personality quirks as real psychological disorders (i.e. the different between the MBTI and anything found in the DSM-IV).

You're pretty critical of everyone around you at your office. You seem to believe that you're better than everyone and have everything figured out. What does that say about you? I always suggest looking inward before labeling people who are different from you. Also, being different from you does not mean that the person has a psychological disorder.

I don't want to be negative, but I am just a little shocked that someone who has a degree in psychology can be so insensitive about real disorders.

If you believe your undergrad degree in psychology has helped you, perhaps a post about what positive steps you've taken to bridge the communication gap with your coworkers would be more helpful.

August 27, 2008 4:51 pm
jrandom42

Apparently, everyone else is the problem. "I love mankind, it's the people I can't stand."

August 27, 2008 5:52 pm
Scott M

Some of my favorite quotes:

Jean-Paul Sartre "Hell is other people"

"No man is an island, but some of us are long peninsulas."
--Anonymous

August 27, 2008 6:45 pm
theleftovers

Thank you, Tiffany!

I love how words out of context tend to make people think the worst about other people.

August 28, 2008 11:02 pm

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